Best Man Speech Structure


Best Man Speech Structure

Of course at Unique Best Man Speeches in our Best Man Speech Packages we have our own unique structure. But today we thought we’d share with you a basic structure that you can use for your speech.

Please also note that a correct speech structure is one of the 3 Secrets To A Top Best Man Speech which you can read about in our free best man speech guide

1. Starting Your Speech

Keep it simple at the start. Ladies and gentlemen is by far the best opening line. Follow that with your name and how you know the groom. You can throw in some light remarks here but stay clear of over doing it at this point though. Any jokes at this stage of the speech should solely target the groom as a ‘warm up’ for things to come. Jokes about the bride are not to be included here (or anywhere in your speech).

2. Say Hello To The Bride Early In Your Speech

The big day is the most unique day for any couple. But for a bride-to-be it is a lot more special, due to the fact that it is something they might have dreamed about for a long time. Clich├ęd as it might seem, this is often the case in most weddings. So, you can make it extra unique by providing her compliments and mention how amazing she looks on her big day. Perhaps you should also compliment her by stating that her groom is genuine fortunate to have located a bride-to-be like her.

In this shower of praises, do not forget the maid of honor and all of the bridesmaids too, as they have been selected by the bride (who has usually selected all their outfits too). So compliment those outfits (and you are indirectly further complimenting the bride, as well as making many lovely ladies very happy!).

3. Stories About The Groom

After your introduction and mentioned of the bride and bridesmaids, now is the time to turn your attention on to the groom. Being the best man, you should know more about the groom than any individual in the room (almost). You should have some good stories – if you do not then check out our post which talks more about preparation – best man speech help.

Use some of the times you have spent together with the groom in your speech. Don’t be afraid to exaggerate the stories a little – this is expected. Many stand up comedians take real life stories and exaggerate them to extreme proportions to create their comedy. You can copy them in your speech. A good idea is to introduce props or something like this – in fact this is another of the 3 Secrets To A Top Best Man Speech.

4. Compliment The Newly Married Couple

After you’ve told some funny stories, jokes and satirized the groom, complimenting the bride as well as her bridesmaids, it is time to change your tone a little and focus more on your happiness and feelings concerning your close friend finding the right bride for him. Let others know exactly how satisfied you are for the couple – as well as mentioning hope for their future and your belief that they will be permanently happy. Refer to their plans, their future, profession, honeymoon and so on. You should also share that by this you are not losing a best friend but acquiring one more good friend. It is also custom for a best man to provide the newly married couple with a few marriage suggestions – you can have a little fun with this too. It is not totally necessary to do this though – sometimes it can be awkward, so simply avoid it if that’s the case.

5. Time For The Toast

What most people don’t realise is that the toast comes in two parts. Firstly, you offer your own ‘individual toast’. This is not a formal ‘raise your glasses’ toast but more of the content from part (4) where you offer your congratulations and sincere toast to them as a couple. Secondly, the part everyone knows, the crowd-wide toast where you will invite everyone in the audience to charge or raise their glasses. Keep it relatively simple and don’t forget to introduce the newly married couple – this always makes everyone happy!


At Unique Best Man Speeches we’ve been helping best men like you with their speeches – for years. We have literally helped hundreds of best men. We like to think we understand best man speeches better than anyone else out there.

If you’re struggling with writing your best man speech, stressed over humiliating yourself or merely aren’t sure exactly what you’re meant to include check out our free Best Man Speech guide – and learn ‘The 3 Secrets To A Top Best Man Speech’.


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